So any additional materials section off this video will lecture you can never be able to download and
print off a worksheet that we've put together for you that will act as a template for you.
If you want to guide other people through the same process remember.
All right.
We don't get perfect this stuff overnight.
This over overtime once we've had a few conversations of this nature we would just become a little bit
clearer on what we're actually looking for under direction which we want to get the conversation.
But for all intents and purposes the purpose of this office is exercise of this conversation is to simply
meet our client where they're right and where their experience and their issue the fear their concern
whatever is going to be the void.
Just could refer it to us as as the void and we look at how their experience in the void on a physical
level.
And then we just simply build on that.
All right we'll look into separate five different levels of human experience and what you saw there
with Karen.
We started out talking about Karen was physically experiencing this problem or how this issue or goal
of hers which I think became apparent was actually a negative motivation.
Then we looked at how she experienced emotionally what she was thinking about rationally listening to
the little devil on the shoulder not listening to the good voice just listening to the bad one which
is what many people do and how this triggers our volitional responses i.e. the decisions and choices
that we actually make and how it is our decisions and choices are always driven by spiritual purpose
or a goal i.e. a value or something like that.
So then how about this Karen.
You'd be happy to share what being led through that process was like for you.
Very very straightforward isn't it.
It was very straightforward.
And I find it quite helpful to break down the different areas.
And particularly when we looked at the volitional part like why what I actually do when I'm feeling
this way and when I'm feeling anxious tense and then my natural response is to avoid the behavior which
completely works against what I want to do in the first place it's kind of like that's your default
mode Yeah isn't it.
Yeah.
So when we're doing exercises like this what the goal is is to reset the default mode.
We need a new default mode of default mode.
Historically has been apathy withdraw hold back with the reset.
Would do that by looking at the motivation.
Yes.
Yeah.
What we learned through this was and that actually my my focus and my motivation to not do any damage
is as completely unhelpful like actually looking at the I think probably one of the most helpful parts
of that exercise was actually looking at what my value is that I actually have to offer.
And that's a far more motivating goal than then thinking of the worst possible outcome if I did if I
were to make a fool of myself.
It's kind of like sometimes when we're going through life or we'll withdraw and we'll hold back from
doing the things that we really want to do for fear of getting it wrong.
Whatever it is.
All right.
But when we focus instead on what it is we're actually able to do well i.e. from we focus on what we've
already done hurdles and challenges and issues that we've already overcome.
Then in Kenya really fill us with a lot more confidence just to get out there and get started.
I'm thinking back to the to the case study with Amanda three or four videos of guano and that was a
great example of this.
Now obviously we didn't take that any further with the meter but for we read what I was able to identify
when it broke the case study done.
Was that Amanda has fears in one area of our life and the fears that she has of failing miserably.
You know relational intimacy level she doesn't have a problem with a problem within a professional level
just like she already has the strategy.
She already knows how to relate and interact with people because she's got a successful business but
yet she's not applying how you know what she's doing well on a professional level.
On a personal level.
But sometimes we can't see the woods for the trees and we know that.
Yeah yeah.
And I think it's hugely empowering looking at how I'm already doing well and what experience I've got
to offer and it makes the whole new events new people seem much less intimidating.
So cool.
Fantastic.
So what we're really looking at here is just to foundations everything that's going to become the evidence
is going to become or come before the court the actual court process not really started coaching yet.
All right.
But there's no point in setting goals with Curran and such as I want to go and speak to more people
when I want to do and go and do more workshops and more events and more groups and all this kind of
stuff.
Why.
Because if Curran isn't grounded in how she's internalizing and our external experiences and hopes and
goals and dreams and ambitions in life then you know what we've just seen here is it comes default mode
is apathy is withdrawal is holding back.
So this exercise is hopefully just helped Karen appreciate.
On a deeper level there's actually an alternative option here yeah yeah.
And that by simply changing my focus and my my goal I'm actually working towards something I want then
I'll actually start achieving more if I want and apathy won't come into play on it.
So apathy comes into play when you're focusing on what I don't like the worst case scenario worst case
scenario.
Which is what you write.
I don't want.
So apathy comes into play.
You hold back when you focus in on what you don't want but what you're focusing on what you do want
feel empowered to do something interesting that's a bit of a shift in perspective isn't it.
Yeah.
OK.
Did you see what we've done there.
Right.
Quite simple and quite straightforward.
If you a member of ecology or jumping and and ask someone if they'll jump in and try out with you and
will work through this as model for yourself right.
Remember practice doesn't make us paraffin that just makes us permanently better than what we were yesterday.
And if you're not a member of ecology then go and find a family member a friend a loved one a child.
This is just a conversation.
All right it's not a complicated technique it's just a conversation you can have with someone about
the five and you go through the five different levels of which they're already experienced in life.
When we asked people these questions it's not like we need to really give it some thought because they're
already aware.
All right all we're really helping them do is just to break down the five different levels upon which
they are experiencing life.
It helps them to make far better sense of the nature of their reality.
You with me understand why we've done this so this kind of stuff all comes before the coach and process
which believe it or not if we do our groundwork well enough or I can actually be quite simple and straight
forward so I'll be following this demonstration useful insightful.
I hope you understand what it's for.
It's just for the purpose of helping our plane to look at their issue or void or challenge from an alternative
perspective.
Generally from the place of a positive motivation instead of the negative which is generally what they're
going to be coming to us operate note off to begin with anyway so we'll both enjoy the demonstration
the deconstruction and we'll see you again in the next clip.